Farewell Pithaji

Your wisdom and love made us who we are today. You are the man that lived a created a true legacy for yourself, you are the man that climbed the golden stairs all the way to the heavens you are forever blessed and have showered your blessings upon your children, grandchildren and great grandchildren. On Saturday 20th June I stood before your casket adorned with flowers, and even then till the day of your last rights your face shone regal and angelic in a white namdhari dastar (turban) and kurtha pajama, and gazed out at a hundred people who had gathered around to bid you their last farewell.

I never really like to write about my emotions and feelings especially when someone i really love and care about has departed from this dream like world, I just like let them pass and move on with life but today, I know I need to draw courage from words on paper and let my feelings flood. I feel like its something i need to do, even though its almost been a week, not a day goes by where I don’t miss you, our beautiful Pitha Ji.

In the beginning, there were sounds: your voice, teaching me to recite my jap ji sahib paat, peli pori:

Ik Onkar. Sat Naam. Karta Purakh. Nirbhau. Nirvair. Akal Murat. Ajuni Saibhang. Gurprashad. Jap. Aad Sach. Jugad Sach. Hai Bhi Sach. Nanak Hosi Bhi Sach.

and then slowly moving on to reciting the full ardaas. Pithaji was a very respectable religious man with many religious values. Till the last moments of his life he would sit there reciting his namsimran and gurbani as much as his mind, body and soul would allow. He was truly an amazing person and he is truly going to be missed.

He lived every moment in this deep calm with child-like wonder and love for the beauty in the world – he would see god in everyone and everything. He was a true saint and its a great loss to us all that he’s now no longer with us physically. However i’m sure he’s out there somewhere in the heavens looking down on us all laughing with the cute little laugh of his, nodding his head while doing his namsimran.

Personally I have always been a little saddened that i never got to experience the love of my naniji the way most of my cousins have, I always felt a little misfortunate not being born in her era where she would shower all her children and grandchildren with many great and precious memories. But for me Pithaji made up for all that, he mended that little hole in my heart that i could not share with anyone. He created a such a bond where I no longer felt like I was missing out on anything he was my naniji and my nanaji, he left me with many memories with which I am content with and will cherish for the rest of my life.

He taught me how to cook at the age of 10 or at least make a decent thurka without burning the house down. He encouraged me to learn my japji sahib paat. He used to sit me and my brother down and tell us all these beautiful life changing experiences he went through life which led him to become the man he was, a man of true virtue following the path of riotousness.

I look back at all these memories you have left us with and it saddens me that you are no longer here. Your gone, your body is gone, the whispers of your simran’s gone, and everytime i think of you gone i just want to cry my eyes out all over again. But there is another part of me too. Deep inside, where you planted a seed of strength in my heart, I know that you are just on the other side of my grief. I know that you have been with me all along. And you will continue to be with me. You will be within each of your grandchildren whenever we need you. It is an honor to be your grandchild; it is an honor to be blessed with your love.

We will try to live up to your example: your deep faith in God, your constant curiosity, your discipline in mind and body, your endless creativity, and yes, your fearlessness in life and in the face of death. I will feel you in the root of me, so that everything that I do, you do. Everyone who knows me, will know you. My children will know you and their children’s children will know you.

since this is not goodbye, I have one last prayer to offer your spirit as it goes blazing up into the heart of God. This prayer is called Tati vao na lagi. “The hot wind cannot touch you in the fires,” Pitha Ji, just as it could not touch you in life, because you move in the circle of God’s Protection.

The hot wind does not even touch one who is under the Protection of God.

On all four sides I am surrounded by God’s Circle of Protection; pain does not afflict me, O Siblings of Destiny.

I have met the Perfect True Guru, who has done this deed.

He has given me the medicine of God’s Name, and I enshrine love for the One Lord.

God has saved me, and eradicated all my sickness.

Says Nanak, God has showered me with His Mercy; He has become my help and support.

[Guru Arjan, SGGS 819:16]

Farewell Pitha ji until we meet again…


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I would just also like to thank Sunny Juttla for taking such great shots of our beloved Pitha ji. 


As you all may or may not know, I am of Indian origin, and of Sikh faith, and today is a very significant day for all us sikhs, as it is the anniversary of the birth of Khalsa, also known as ‘Vaisakhi’.

This important event has its origins in India, where it is associated with a harvest festival and the New Year for people that identify with the Hindu, Sikh and Buddhist faith and traditions.  It also represents  the establishment of the Khalsa for those of the Sikh faith.

The festival of Vaisakhi marks the birth of Khalsa, a collective body of all Sikhs represented by the Panj Pyare also translated as the five brave ones.

It was in April 1699 that Guru Gobind Singh Ji, the 10th Master of Sikhs, encouraged a casteless solidarity, which is represented by the Panj Pyare. The phrase ‘five brave ones’ is the English translation of the Panj Pyare but the word brave fits well. These five were from different social backgrounds who became one on this ceremonial occasion. They condemned their social status and devoted their lives to fulfilling the Guru’s mission of promoting equality, humanity and justice.

Equality in the Sikh faith has always been one of my favourite parts to learn about. Born and brought up in a family surrounded by Sikh values and learning about my faith I am proud to say that my faith doesn’t allow inequality based on gender, race, religion or a social status. As a woman I can take part in all the activities in a Sikh Gurdwara that men take part in so if it’s leading the congregation or cleaning the dishes no one is superior or inferior over the other. We are all equal.

The festival of Vaisakhi always acts as a reminder to the whole Sikh community that no matter who we are or where we come from we are all one.




Now in light vaisakhi, and for a bit of fun I’ve posted a Jus Reign Video below. 🙂

¶ß Happy Vaisakhi  ¶ß
¶ß Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fate!  ¶ß



The Silver Lining .. In My Pants!

Hey Dolls,

So yesterday I was on my way to work and noticed a little tiny hole in my leggings. I honestly didn’t think anything of it at first until I got to my office and looked down. I totally underestimated how big the hole was and by the time I could do anything the hole had just gotten ridiculously bigger, so big there was no possible way for me to conceal it.

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Any-how I quickly snuck out of work and ran to the nearest Walmart (since it’s the only place that would sell leggings at 8:00 in the morning. I finally got there and quickly ran to the women’s section. The sales associate women that was stacking clothes away at the time (lets just call her Julie for name sake) looked at me, she clearly noticed the giant crotch whole, and I could tell she was trying hard not to laugh; it was totally humiliating but oh well its only a crotch hole right ? could happen to anyone …. Right ?

So with great shame i’m standing there with my thighs tightly squeezed together trying my best to conceal the the gigantic formidable tear that was totally destroying my street cred at Walmart. Julie asked if I needed assistance with a huge grin on her face … I asked her where I could find some leggings so she directed me to the children’s section lol, because clearly I look like a 12 year old!  Anyway I just said thanks to avoid any more embarrassment and pretended to shop around in the kiddies section until she left. I hurried around to the women’s section and finally found a pair of jegging’s but they only had women’s size 12-14, and by now it was like hitting 8:20 and I needed to get back to work, so out of haste I just thought F*ck it ! picked it up and ran to check out.

However, Walmart being Walmart and me being me…. I got lost! lol ( If you know me by now, you’ll know its not the first time this has happened). But I found myself in the jewelry section, at first I was like Meh! who wants to buy jewelry from Walmart ?! and then I saw these babies ….

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I scampered over the the jewelry and as soon as I saw the price I kinda lost the plot. They were on sale for $5 so clearly I had to buy them all! I not only wanted the statement necklace but I wanted one in every color I could get my hands on.  At this point I kinda new that I wasn’t just going to leave with a pair of jegging’s in my hand. So I caved and walked out with a bag full of necklaces. But to be fair, I did feel better about my day, and honestly couldn’t wait to share my statement necklaces with y’all.

Moral of the story:

 There’s always a silver lining behind every dark cloud

... or should I say in my pants!



Hello world!

Hi! I’m Hari Kaur but some of you may know me as Harnam. So firstly welcome to my blog, Hari-Kaur. Here you’ll find all of my favorite girly topics- beauty, fashion, fitness, glitter, coffee, tea, dessert and my sweet girlfriends. Inspired by the thousands of great bloggers out there and fueled by my love for all things pretty I set up my blog so that I can document all my latest beauty/fashion obsessions.

I’m originally born and bread British, my current nationality is British Indian, however I recently got married and decided to settle in with my husband in the US (almost going on 3 years now, so I’m not entirely sure if its still considered recent lol). But nevertheless I guess I’m now officially a Minnesotan girl. Woo! Minnesota! Land of corn and all you can eat Soy beans! 

My Insta-blogging journey has been incredible and I love every minute of it! I get super excited when I get new comments and am a geek when it comes to watching stats, I could sit there hitting the refresh button all day if I didn’t have to work lol!

Apart from blogging about my latest Fashion must-haves and Beauty Buys, I like to ramble occasionally about the randomness in my life!

Although I am a Makeup Fanatic, I am by no means a makeup artist, so although I shall not be able to tell you how you should or shouldn’t do something, I would happily show you how I would go about it. Most of the time its trial and error but that’s all part of the fun!

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